What Do You Think Of Bloggers Who Moderate Comments?

December 12, 2015 Discussions 31

I don’t mean the way we all do, to make sure comments aren’t spam. That makes total sense and doesn’t bother me at all.

A month or more ago, I came across a blog I’d never been to before. I don’t remember which blog or what the post was about. That’s not really important anyhow. But whomever the blogger was, had put up a discussion post and was asking for opinions. So I typed up a response that was different than what they were going for I guess? (We’ll pretend a moment that the discussion was about the color of the sky. They said it was blue, I said yes but sometimes it’s pink. K? *lol* )

Since I hadn’t commented on the blog before, the comment went into moderation. I bookmarked the page and went on my way. I checked back on it a week or so later when I was doing the rounds of ‘did this get a response?’. And I saw that not only was my comment not there, but the only comments on that discussion post were ones that agreed with the blogger. I read all of them because I was curious. Not a single comment contradicted the world-view the blogger had laid out in their discussion post. Not even slightly. And I would swear that when I had left my comment there had been at least one or two comments that had a differing opinion. But no trace of those was left on the post.

They were all the ‘yes exactly!’ and ‘yes and this is why blah blah blah’ types of posts. And I just kinda sat there for a moment wondering why you would bother having a discussion post if you didn’t want people to comment on it with different ideas than yours?

Is this a new thing that I haven’t heard about? It certainly makes me not want to visit and comment on blogs like that. And makes me wonder why bloggers who do it think it’s a good idea. Have you run across blogs like that? Or is this the Universe’s way of telling me to stop clicking through links when I’m bored? *laughs*

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31 Responses to “What Do You Think Of Bloggers Who Moderate Comments?”

  1. Laura

    That is so weird! I have seen blogs where your comment goes into moderation (which considering I have never had a genuinely horrible comment does sometimes make me wonder if that in itself is a little over the top? But I guess that’s a matter of opinion, and I have no problem with it if that’s what a blogger wants to do!) but it seems a bit ridiculous to remove comments that don’t agree with the post. The entire point of a discussion post, as you say, is to have a discussion, which means people not always agreeing with each other. As long as people keep it polite (and I have never seen anyone get rude, but I’m sure it does happen occasionally) I have no problem with people disagreeing with my point of view.
    I guess at the end of the day though, you’re entitled to do whatever you want with your own comments, but I personally wouldn’t comment on a blog again if that happened to a comment I’d made. Interesting discussion!
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    • SilvaraWilde

      I moderate the first comment from new people, and after that there’s no wait time. Mostly because it never fails that I’m at work or somewhere I can’t easily log into my website, and that’s the time some spammer manages to get around my spam-detecting plugins and mass comments on things. All comments go directly to my e-mail, so I can read them while at work or wherever. So I can always tell when the clever spam people have found me. *laughs*

      I totally get deleting comments from rude people, or ones you may end up in fighting matches with or something. But ones that are just a difference of opinion are weird to me. I mean, that’s what a discussion IS… I thought? *laughs*

      I also wonder what it does to the person’s followers/traffic. I mean, do they realize that’s why it must be tanking? Or do they even notice?

  2. Michelle @ Pink Polka Dot Books

    I would never do this and have never noticed anyone else doing this!! It is definitely not cool though. If you want to discuss, discuss!! And a normal discussion is not going to have everyone in agreement. I never get spam, so I always wonder what the point of having the moderation setting there, but maybe other people do… still, you can delete the spam posts afterwards anyhow, so IDK what the difference is.
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    • SilvaraWilde

      I get lots of spam. Mostly my spam plugins catch it. But there have been times when a particularly clever spam-person has gotten through. They always seem to leave a bunch of comments on different posts with junk sell links. So I moderate the first comment for new people. Saves on my clean-up time and they don’t get any traffic from it since it never goes ‘live.’

      I actually like when I get differing opinions on my discussion posts. It helps me see things in other ways that I might not have thought of before. So it totally floored me that whomever this blogger is, was weeding out comments that didn’t agree with their post. After my near-month without internet, I doubt I’d recognize the blog that did it. But I do wonder if they’ve noticed a tank in their traffic. I would imagine it would turn people off from return visits.

    • SilvaraWilde

      Exactly! Discussions are supposed to have multiple points of view! Or at least, I’ve always thought they should. *laughs* Depending on the topic of course.

      As for spam. I deleted 60 comments today alone. Luckily nearly all were in my spam folder and hadn’t made it through. But a few were particularly clever and would have gone live if I didn’t moderate the first comment for new people. I can’t even imagine how many bigger blogs get. Or maybe I’m just particularly unlucky in that regard! *laughs*

  3. Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

    When I first read this title, I thought you were just talking about comments going into moderation. Since I can’t quite figure out how to control which comments go into moderation on my blog (I swear, sometimes it seems random!), I thought I’d be over here defending us poor technically unsavvy bloggers.

    But then I read this and thought, “WHAT?” Unless I got a really offensive comment (which I never have), I would never censor comments that didn’t agree with me. What’s the point of a discussion if we can’t discuss?
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    • SilvaraWilde

      I know! I’m SO bad at coming up with titles a lot of the time! Need to work on that, sorry for the confusion! *laughs*

      I have no idea why anyone would make a discussion post, and then only allow comments that agreed with them. That doesn’t sound like a “discussion” to me. But it totally happened!

  4. Alyn

    I don’t like it, and will stop following a blogger if I notice it happening. There has only been one blog that I stopped following because they kept deleting comments claiming they didn’t want drama. They deleted FB posts too for the same reason. Anyone who disagreed had their comment deleted. If they continued to post, they were told they were no longer welcome to comment and others would jump in and tell them to go away. I let it go the first time it happened, then it happened a second time, and then a third time. That’s when I said forget this! I knew if I stuck around, I would be the next person they tell to stop commenting.

    • SilvaraWilde

      That sounds like it’s creating drama, not heading it off. I swear the world is filled with crazy people. And most of them aren’t crazy in the good/fun ways!

  5. Cait @ Paper Fury

    Okay, I do NOT get that. I confess, I have deleted comments that disagreed with me before (on goodreads, though, not my blog) but that’s because they disagreed really rudely and called me horrible names and I thought, “Gee, this is my review, why do I have to put up with rude attacks?” So. DELETE. But, hey discussions are totally different!! It’s not inviting a discussion if you’re not willing to listen to other opinions. Especially if they’re presented nicely, right?!? That seems odd and very frustrating.
    I’ve had bloggers just skip over replying to my comments because I didn’t “gush and adore” them…I just discussed the post topic or whatever. But since I didn’t layer on compliments they didn’t even ANSWER MY COMMENT. *steams*
    (Also another reason I get kind of frazzled with moderation is because I read a heck of a lot of blogs…like I mean TONS and sometimes I forget which posts I’ve commented on. I’m dreading the day I comment on a post twice because the comments are hidden with moderation for that moment. >_< I'M GONNA DIE OF EMBARRASSMENT.)
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    • SilvaraWilde

      Deleting because of rudeness makes total sense to me. If they’re going to behave badly and resort to name-calling, I wouldn’t want the comment around either.

      Though honestly? I can’t imagine someone not answering your comments! *laughs* I love reading your reviews/discussions because they’re so funny! And your comments are too. So that tells me the person who ignored you is insane. *nods* I’ve actually come across a few blogs that never once answered a comment on their own blog. It was weird to me, and made me not go back. Not answering every comment when you have like a million, makes sense. But not even a single comment?

      I have a bookmark folder I use to remind me if I’ve commented. Even if it doesn’t end up being moderated, I’ll comment, and then Add To Bookmarks so I can both remember to check back if the blog doesn’t have some kind of comment reply. And so I can be sure if I’ve left the comment or just thought I did! Then when/if there’s a reply, I delete the bookmark. Extra work, but I’m such a scatter-brain I need it!

  6. Em

    I’m a blogger that moderates comments, not because of spam, but because it’s just a way that I feel keeps me protected. I ALWAYS publish the comments once I get the email saying that they commented as long as it’s appropriate that is. But to delete comments that don’t agree with your view on a DISCUSSION post is completely unreasonable. Isn’t the point of a discussion post to discuss BOTH sides of the topic? This just irks me…

    • SilvaraWilde

      I always thought so. But apparently some people think a Discussion is “agree with me” time. *shrugs* Maybe they’ll get a clue, maybe they won’t, but it certainly turns me off on visiting their blog again.

      Moderating comments in general doesn’t bother me at all. I do the first one for new commenters, because moderating all of them is too much effort and I’m lazy. *laughs* But I can totally see why someone would do so for every comment.

  7. Shannon @ It Starts At Midnight

    Wow. No words. I cannot believe that people do this! I can’t think of any reason I would EVER delete a comment, unless someone was hatefully attacking another commenter on my site. That is it. I don’t even think I’d care a ton if they attacked ME, I mean, I’d probably leave it so people could see what a complete asshat they were, to be honest 😉

    So yeah, I moderate exactly zero percent of comments. Not even for spam. Here are the reasons: First, I don’t have time. At all. Because in the past 7 days, I have had 868 spam comments send to the spam box. So if I kept all the comments in purgatory, I fear my real ones would get incredibly lost in the spammy shuffle. Second, it seems my spam filter is pretty good at what it does 😉

    I guess I could have posted on blogs like this and just never known? Because if my comment is held in moderation, I just click out of it, because otherwise I would likely go back and try to comment again, forgetting that I’d commented the first time, and then I would feel awkward. So I suppose if the person deleted and never responded, I’d just have no idea. But I really hope it isn’t a frequent thing. That person clearly should not be having discussions if they don’t want to, you know, discuss stuff!
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    • SilvaraWilde

      *laughs* I can’t imagine deleting a comment either. At least, one that wasn’t blatant spam. I like seeing multiple points of view in a Discussion. Sometimes things are pointed out that I never would have thought of otherwise. So when I realized that all the comments on that post were only the ones that agreed I was pretty floored. Still am honestly. My one thought is that maybe it’s a kid/young teen? (Not that all kids/teens are like that, some of my favorite blogs are run by awesome kids/teens!) Someone who hasn’t learned better yet. Either way, it was weird!

      I agree about forgetting where you’ve commented. I started bookmarking posts I’d commented on, so if I’m not sure, I can check and if the post isn’t in that folder then I haven’t commented! Also helps when I want to wander back by to see if there’s any replies. And once there is a reply, I can delete the bookmark. That’s really the only reason I had any idea this had happened. I went to the bookmark and my comment was gone.

  8. Kristen Burns

    Wow, that really is weird :-/ I actually hate it when people just always agree with me about things. Life would be boring if we all agreed on everything! I’m always up for a good (respectful) debate. Hearing different opinions is what makes you think and grow and consider ideas you hadn’t before. But, unfortunately, some people don’t WANT to think and grow.

    I don’t know if my comments have ever been moderated like that since I’m not great at keeping track, but it would be frustrating. I wouldn’t go back to a blog like that. I’ve never deleted comments online unless they were completely inappropriate.
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    • SilvaraWilde

      People who refuse to think are the people I avoid at all costs in RL. So I can’t imagine one having a blog. Then again, those kinds of people are the ones who I’d be surprised if they had interest in having a blog. And yet, it still happened. *laughs*

      I’ve only deleted 1-2 comments since starting this blog. And both were ones that had escaped my spam filter. I can’t imagine deleting for any other reason other than someone being way over the top mean. Discussions are like debates, there should be two sides (unless of course the discussion isn’t that kind of discussion…)

  9. Beks @ Novel Dreams

    I’m always really wary about leaving comments for this exact reason. At the end of the day, we put effort into writing meaningful comments regarding the post, so to have them completely wiped out of existence is disappointing to say the least! I can’t believe this happened to you 🙁

    • SilvaraWilde

      It’s at least the first time I’ve been aware of it happening to me. So at least we can say it doesn’t happen often in the community? I would hope? *laughs*

      I can kind of understand bloggers deleting spammy comments, the ones like “great post” and then a link to some random thing. I’d most likely let the comment stay, and just remove the link. But the whole point of discussions is to get multiple points of view. At least, that’s what I’ve always liked about them.

  10. Beks @ Novel Dreams

    I’ve had it happen a couple of times to be honest, usually in the same sort of situation as you… simply disagreeing with something. Being respectful as a blogger is just as important as being respectful as a commenter and I think some people forget that because they can’t deal with differing opinions 🙁

    Oh, for real! I mean, what’s the point in a discussion if there’s no discussion actually taking place? It bothers me, but I don’t think it does happen very often, so hopefully we can all avoid it from here on out!
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  11. Zeee @ I Heart Romance & YA

    I don’t understand how moderating comments on a discuasion post does you any good at all. I mean, why post that discussion if you don’t want opinions? I personally love to hear about opinions different than mine in anything from book reviews to discussion posts.

    Now, if someone really posted something offensive, I may have to moderate that or just block out the offensive sentence but keep the comment. This will be done on a case to case basis.
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    • SilvaraWilde

      I moderate all posts from new commenters, just because of spam. But I can’t imagine deleting comments just because they don’t share my view. That’s what a discussion is about! *laughs* And I love seeing other view points, a lot of the time I may not have thought of some things if they hadn’t been brought up in discussion. Thanks for stopping by!

  12. tonyalee

    Um, I have never heard of this being a THING. I mean, what’s the point of putting up a discussion post if you aren’t going to DISCUSS but only show those people that agree? That is one of the stupidest things I have heard.

    And it has happened to me, too. Just twice. But still. Don’t delete comments, IMO.

    • SilvaraWilde

      Exactly! And I’m sorry to hear it’s happened to you before! It’s crazy, if people don’t want to see opinions other than their own, they need to not make a discussion. (Or go live in a box?)

  13. Jackie

    Say what? I can understand deleting vicious, hateful comments, but deleting respectfully disagreeable comments is a thing? I’m kind of blown away by that honestly. You’re right, what is the point of initiating a discussion if a person doesn’t welcome comments that challenge their own opinion. That’s censorship at it’s finest right there, and I’m sorry you experienced that.
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    • SilvaraWilde

      At least it was the first time it’s happened to me, that I’m aware of. From some of the comments left on this post, it’s happened more than once to others. I just don’t get that at all. Why bother having a blog, much less a discussion, if you expect every comment ever to have the same opinion as you? That would be a very boring world filled with robot people I think…

  14. Lexie @ The Honest Bookclub

    I’m always of the “to each their own” opinion, and if the question was “What do you think of bloggers who require comment approval?” my answer would be – to each their own. But since the question is “What do you think of bloggers who CENSOR comments on their blog”, my answer is – dear god, why.

    Especially seeing as it was a discussion post, as you so aptly pointed out. Surely the whole point of a discussion is to… discuss? Open the floor to all manner of opinions.

    The naive little pumpkin in me always assumes that the comment approval is there for the sake of (a) preventing spam, or (b) monitoring the language of the comments. (Especially if the blog is in the MG/YA age range and the comment is inappropriate for the demographic.) I guess I’m an idealist like that. But you’ve just opened my might to the frightening possibility of (c) censorship. And I am now a disturbed little pumpkin.
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    • SilvaraWilde

      I know! I’m sorry! I had the worst time trying to come up with a title for this discussion post. I’d had problems in the past with titles, but none this bad I think…

      I’m sorry you were disturbed! It was a little confusing to me when I realized it happened. And then I was pretty much like “But…why? What’s the point??” And going by some of the comments I’ve gotten on this post, this isn’t an isolated incident. (Though I’m not sure you wanted to know that!) Some people have said it’s happened to them more than once, and on more than one blog! That just completely boggles me.

  15. Ellie @ On the Other Side of Reality

    I think that if a blog is aimed towards a certain audience, like kids, moderating comments is okay to make sure sexually explicit comment or nasty swearing isn’t commented. However, I do think that if comments are to be moderated for reasons such as that, there should be a message somewhere on the blog stating what is and isn’t considered appropriate so people don’t accidentally get their comments deleted. And a comment being deleted because the writer respectfully disagreed with you? That is unacceptable – ESPECIALLY if it’s a discussion post. I once posted about a controversial social justice opinion on my own blog, and a blogger I follow who disagrees with my opinion has refused to respond to any of my comments on her blog since. She’ll respond to all the other comments on the posts except mine – *sighs*.

    – Ellie
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    • SilvaraWilde

      I moderate the first comment someone leaves on my blog, just because of how much spam I get. But as long as the comment is an actual comment and not some kind of spam post, it always gets approved.

      I don’t understand the point of having a discussion post, if you don’t allow anyone to give an opinion contrary to yours. That just isn’t a discussion! *laughs*

      That other blogger sounds like they take grudges way too far. I’d be tempted to stop reading and commenting on a blog that totally ignored me for something like that. Sounds childish, and I’m sure others are noticing if yours is the only comment that’s constantly ignored.

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